The Line Between

Another day and yet another post from your beloved; today I’ll be introducing the second category of the blog, The Line Between!

In life we are always faced with some paradoxes, some two extremes that if we live by either independently, life will seem like a crushing chore, a continuously uphill task or downhill tumble depending on how you choose to look at it. Here I’ll be setting up scenarios to help us navigate that line between. Hopefully with time we can change perspective and look at it as a road between the desert and a luscious rainforest rather than as a high rope in the circus that only those with a certain level of skill, fitness and dedication can maneuver.

It is true that you will need some certain level of skill, fitness and dedication to maneuver, but even the very best start somewhere. No one wakes up one day knowing what the right choices are and how far to take on belief before hoping onto another. I adopted a mantra from a training I once was a part of that says “Strive for excellence not perfection” and for the most part I use it for my good. I say it to myself just before clicking on publish when I have spent hours tweaking the article and still feel like it not yet perfect. “This is perfect for today,” I say to myself, “Next week we shall strive to be better than today.” Sometimes though, I use it as an excuse to present some shoddy work. Like when I waited till the last minute to attempt my campus assignment. I still have a way to make it sound legit, I say ” at least I did my own work” or the all time classic “Even God knows I tried”

I’m working on it, trying to find a balance and look at it more objectively. To use it for my liberation rather than my own downfall. This is what we’ll be doing here every fortnight; I’ll be giving you guidelines and you will be building your own excellent balance. Hopefully to tame you and help you not be overly self righteous yet encourage you to get out of the trap of redundant humility! To push you to work as hard as you need to to achieve your dreams while still taking care of yourself; your wellness, to avoid burnout. To uphold your standards yet not be too standoffish to make friends or network. To make you an over achiever who still maintains her sanity! A lover who still looks at their relationship objectively.

And hey, I’m not promising the world because whether it’s a thin high rope or a dual carriage road, there’s always a chance you’ll end up off road. That’s not a reason to give up, we move on regardless and with this new lesson strive to eliminate these excuses and be better. I don’t always uphold my “no more drinking” policy after a horrible night out but at least the next time I make sure to drink more responsibly. According to me, that’s really what matters, the continuous progress and tweaking until you find what works best for you, your optimal environment. Often times when we end up off road it is because we forgot to put into consideration a certain circumstance, whether out of neglect or surprise; because life holds a lot of those. Either way, if you factor it in and set new boundaries to your balance, you discover you can do better and achieve more.

Feel welcome to this space and watch out for my notifications. I believe this will be a beautiful journey full of exciting discoveries and memorable lessons.

Heartfelt

My blog will be made of 3 different categories that I feel will be interesting ways to guide the conversations towards our goals, this is the first; Heartfelt!

Think of a garden, whether it is for farming or just beauty. Before anyone does anything on it, like plant the seasonal crop or beautiful flowers that will satisfy anyone that chooses to look in its direction, it has to be prepared. You will have to get rid of the weeds, maybe add some nutrients to the soil, protect it from predictors and so much more. All that before you even introduce the seed into the ground. Then there after, you will have to keep weeding, pruning, spraying, watering and ensuring that your garden stays clean and at optimal condition for your plants to stay healthy.

Now lets think of your mind and body, the same principle works. For you to be at full potential and strong enough to carry out your daily activities and more importantly to go out of your way to strive for more, you have to care for yourself. You have to weed out the bad thoughts and habits that don’t serve you, then replace these thoughts and habits with better ones, those that serve to improve you; help you to stay healthy.

I have a whole array of things that I do to keep my mind healthy. Sometimes it’s grabbing a book on a topic I need more light shed or sometimes it’s as crazy as playing my at the time favorite Metro album and dancing along to his genius beats. Just to put it out there I am not the best dancer but I’m working on it, more so, in such situations all I really need is a reason to smile. Sometimes I need to remind myself why I should be happy and sometimes I just need a reason to strive harder because life’s seeming too good yet I know there is more to it. Sometimes it is taking a silent walk as I try to clear my mind and in other cases I pop up at my loudest friends’ house to have a good laugh. What is most important is to know which of them I really need because it’s human nature to rush for the escape rather than support to make me feel better; avoiding the problem rather than confronting it.

Heartfelt will be my outlet to bring up conversations that I hold close to my heart, conversations I am sure your heart needs to hear. Telling you that you are never alone even when it doesn’t feel like there is anyone there and transforming your mind from a place you would rather escape to a place you find peace, love and acceptance. I will teach you how to be your own true friend because that’s the only way you can be that friend to others and sometimes you are the only one that really understands the situation. This here is an invitation to a world of possibilities and peace while you carry yourself through each day and through each situation. To help you discern your feelings and find solution to the root causes of every form of negativity that may be troubling you. Giving you confidence and support to own your days and dreams, to enjoy life not only on the good days but everyday!

So join me here every fortnight so we can share the journey to a healthy mind. That’s the only way you can really be your true self!

Living Life in Colour

Life is beautiful, life is fun, life is an adventure, life is made of progressive steps, it’s a continuous journey; that is, each day brings forth another, each day’s experience brings forth the knowledge we live by. Each day we grow; physically, emotionally, mentally & spiritually. We make choices and decisions based on what we believe in and what we desire of our lives. I’m a lover of life, and the good life to be precise. For me the good life involves finding peace, love and joy within myself and in those I happen to be around, whether I choose to or the situation presents itself.

I decided to start this blog because I would like to share what I have learnt over the years and still continue to learn about living life in colour. These are conversations to call you to live life more intentionally, to be more present in the gifts the world presents now! It’s obvious that none of us will be here forever and worse still no one knows when or how it will all end. So why not allow yourself the freedom to live wildly pursue your dreams, be a better version of you each passing day. Not do any of this to make a show or impress anyone as the world today has accustomed us to dim necessary, but do it all for you; a somewhat selfish decision. Conversations to call us to vibrate higher, seek out more off life and give more to the world around us. This I believe is the whole reason we ended up here and at this time. To live an exciting life and focus on what really makes us happy rather than what the world is doing. Who knows, maybe you hold the secret to true happiness and we might never see it if you keep holding back.

I am all for the growth mindset. It all started for me a few years ago when I was feeling confused and wanting it to all make sense. I was a second year student in the university trying to find identity in a place that I barely felt noticed, yet felt overly judged. In my head, a constant battle each day feeling like I wasn’t enough or sometimes I wasn’t worthy of it all; because to me it seemed, everyone knew what they were doing, why they were doing it and where they were headed. On the other hand there was me, with a whole lot of ideas that I had no idea how to move forward with. Then slowly and steadily, I came to discover, everything would work out if only I got started and dedicated to what I wanted. It didn’t matter where I was at the time, all I needed was to know, or at least focus on trying to know where I wanted to go. So I made the decision, that each day I would do something, anything, to work towards figuring out who I was and who I wanted to be. That turned out to be a greater adventure than I would ever have imagined and I often look back and laugh at the mistakes, soak in the lessons and reminisce the incredible time I continue to have. And no I didn’t figure it all out in the same year even if I started in January, actually quite frankly, I made the worst mistakes that year, but you know what, they all shaped me. Here I am about four years later, having not figured much out yet, but more determined than ever. I must admit, I am a lot happier than I was back then, a lot more at peace with how life is unfolding and in love with myself & my life a whole lot more. Yeah life is beautiful.

So what’s all this really about? I’m here just sharing ways to create a life worth living, a life full of wander and adventure. It is a call to be fiercely you and be fiercely in pursuit of your own definition of success. Conversations to help you to figure out who you are, what you are meant to be and why you want to be who you want to be. A reminder that life is a continuous journey and it’s beautiful, and it’s always been, even when we don’t see it. Through this journey we will both keep learning new ways to care for our hearts, souls and minds while we pursue our wildest dreams for we are a great generation that is mostly likely to change the world or at least our lives and those close to us if only we focus on the right things.

Hop on to this train and ride with me each week as the stories slowly unfold and build up, taking in anything you might find interesting and helpful. Here there will always be nourishment for your heart, soul & mind.